It’s a rare person that will give you their truth (more than simply an opinion) in no uncertain terms. I’ve learned that the best service I can provide to people like me is to point out self-deception (denial, rationalizations, justifications and minimizations).
I don’t profess that my truth is THE truth. As someone who has spent a lot of time bearing witness to suffering, struggling, and transformation, I can share some observations that I’ve made countless times:
I preach the Keep It Simple System (K.I.S.S.). Simplicity provides clarity and clear courses of action. It also casts light upon emotional scars and unmet needs. Recovery is about need fulfillment. It’s not about what you want. Needs come first, wants come later.
Many aspects of recovery are painful to go through. They require facing fear, admitting faults, and seeking support. Anyone who says otherwise is selling you something. I can, however, promise you that it’s worth it and that you’re worth it.
Recovery cannot be done alone. Some people stay sober/clean alone and most remain relatively miserable. Recovery is a process of transformation – of becoming something greater.
There are many pathways to recovery. There are no wrong choices, but whichever path you choose, you then must walk it and ultimately, live it.
Recovery is not only a process. It is a lifestyle.
The good news is that nobody is having more fun, receiving more joy, and authentically experiencing more love than those of us who were helped out of hell and today are helping others find their way into a better life.
Jim LaPierre is an addictions and trauma recovery expert. He is the cofounder of Sobernow.com. Jim invites your comments and questions: [email protected]