There’s a form of self-centeredness that isn’t intentionally selfish at all. The adage that applies is, “I’m not much, but I’m all I can think about.”
We are people who desperately want praise, recognition, affirmation and validation. Sadly, we are also uncomfortable receiving them and so we often reject (minimize, water down) kind words.
The hardest part of “adulting” is balance. We tend to approach our lives categorically: work, home, family, friends, our recovery, and other ongoing undertakings/investments. Very often we find that parts of our lives have fallen out of sync.
Gratitude and attitude have a reciprocal relationship that promotes our recovery when we’re willing to receive.
My friends in AA got me started in the right direction with the adage, “Religion is for people who are afraid to go to hell and spirituality is for those who have already been there.”
Serenity is a foreign feeling. We’re likely to distrust it and rail against it. Many of us create “drama” simply to get back to what we’re accustomed to. If we can tolerate the discomfort of things going well, we come to recognize the feeling as the gateway to further growth and healing.
When it comes to ourselves, we are accountable for the harm we caused to others but not the harm we caused ourselves while using. We let nothing go. We hold resentment against self as a means of self-control.
Sober housing is not well defined legally and there are many different types. Does it require more oversight?
Recovery is a process of holistic healing. Too often, we ignore our physical health out of the false belief, “If I ignore it, it will go away.”
“Letting it go” is more than a cliche. Let’s get down to the actual steps of how to do it!