Am I too much?

Am I too much?

Our fears are often irrational, but given our experience, it makes sense that we fear becoming something we are not. Thus, we who were raised to believe that we weren’t good enough, now come to fear that we’re “too much.”

How old do you feel? Making gains in emotional maturity

How old do you feel? Making gains in emotional maturity

We know that the age at which a person starts using drugs and alcohol to cope is the point at which their development is arrested. What we often fail to consider is that abuse, neglect, and any traumatic experience also arrest development.

Loneliness: The most treatable cause of depression

Loneliness: The most treatable cause of depression

I often talk with folks who see themselves and their lives as complicated. In all my years of counseling people, I have never found that to be true. What I find is that the leading causes of depression and anxiety are very simple and correctable.

5 ways to stop hating the holidays

5 ways to stop hating the holidays

Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, and winter. This is the time of year we feel obligated to be around people we don’t like, have an adversarial relationship with the environment, spend too much time on the couch, experience copious amounts of stress and put ourselves in financial straits. But it doesn’t have to be that way.

Overcoming self-centeredness in recovery

Overcoming self-centeredness in recovery

There’s a form of self-centeredness that isn’t intentionally selfish at all. The adage that applies is, “I’m not much, but I’m all I can think about.”

Taking compliments & why it matters

Taking compliments & why it matters

We are people who desperately want praise, recognition, affirmation and validation. Sadly, we are also uncomfortable receiving them and so we often reject (minimize, water down) kind words.

Adulting in Recovery

Adulting in Recovery

The hardest part of “adulting” is balance. We tend to approach our lives categorically: work, home, family, friends, our recovery, and other ongoing undertakings/investments. Very often we find that parts of our lives have fallen out of sync.

Gratitude is key to recovery

Gratitude is key to recovery

Gratitude and attitude have a reciprocal relationship that promotes our recovery when we’re willing to receive.