Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, and winter. This is the time of year we feel obligated to be around people we don’t like, have an adversarial relationship with the environment, spend too much time on the couch, experience copious amounts of stress and put ourselves in financial straits. But it doesn’t have to be that way.
There’s a form of self-centeredness that isn’t intentionally selfish at all. The adage that applies is, “I’m not much, but I’m all I can think about.”
We are people who desperately want praise, recognition, affirmation and validation. Sadly, we are also uncomfortable receiving them and so we often reject (minimize, water down) kind words.
The hardest part of “adulting” is balance. We tend to approach our lives categorically: work, home, family, friends, our recovery, and other ongoing undertakings/investments. Very often we find that parts of our lives have fallen out of sync.
Gratitude and attitude have a reciprocal relationship that promotes our recovery when we’re willing to receive.
My friends in AA got me started in the right direction with the adage, “Religion is for people who are afraid to go to hell and spirituality is for those who have already been there.”
Serenity is a foreign feeling. We’re likely to distrust it and rail against it. Many of us create “drama” simply to get back to what we’re accustomed to. If we can tolerate the discomfort of things going well, we come to recognize the feeling as the gateway to further growth and healing.
When it comes to ourselves, we are accountable for the harm we caused to others but not the harm we caused ourselves while using. We let nothing go. We hold resentment against self as a means of self-control.
Most folks don’t realize that the two most dangerous substances in the world to withdraw from are benzodiazepines and alcohol. In this article, we offer the facts about detoxing from Xanax not as medical advice but rather as guidance.
Sober housing is not well defined legally and there are many different types. Does it require more oversight?