When You’re Down and Don’t Know Why

When You’re Down and Don’t Know Why

A big part of recovery is noticing habits that don’t serve us and replacing them. Sometimes it’s as simple as identifying an emotional reflex. Example: Sometimes I catch myself feeling down and my brain immediately sets out to investigate why that is.

The Fear of Getting Better

The Fear of Getting Better

Like most aspects of recovery, getting better is counterintuitive in that it’s generally terrifying. When we’re not sure how to be, we entertain the option of shooting ourselves in the foot, just to get back to the familiar.

Growing spiritually

Growing spiritually

I’ve come to understand that control is fear-based and more importantly, largely an illusion. On my good days, the only thing I’m in charge of is myself. On my great days, I’m not in control of me – my Higher Power is. I surrender on a daily basis – asking my Higher Power to work through me to give and receive.

Let it go

Let it go

We treat letting go and acceptance as though they are once and for all decisions made from what our minds know to be best. In truth, both are emotional processes that are ongoing adjustments.

Get your recovery out of retrograde!

Get your recovery out of retrograde!

How do you measure your progress in recovery? Counting days is good but it’s not enough. Developing plans that include specific goals is key. Vague ideas about getting better don’t lend themselves to accountability.

Recovery & traumatic memories surfacing

Recovery & traumatic memories surfacing

It used to surprise me how many of the trauma survivors I serve enjoy horror movies. It took me a long time to get it. Unlike the imagery in your head, you can make the movie stop anytime you want.

Stop Sabotaging Love!

Stop Sabotaging Love!

Childhood abuse and neglect, adolescent and young adult trauma, it all adds up in layers like sediment that can’t be permeated.

The 3 types of depression & how to cope

The 3 types of depression & how to cope

Most of us have a limited ability to recognize depression in ourselves and others. The more we’re connecting with kindred spirits, the better our coping and friendships.

Learning how to let go

Learning how to let go

“Letting it go” is more than a cliche. Let’s get down to the actual steps of how to do it!