We have a longing to understand ourselves and a tendency to judge ourselves unfairly. Let’s hod off on labels and work on developing health and identity!
Childhood abuse and neglect, adolescent and young adult trauma, it all adds up in layers like sediment that can’t be permeated.
Most of us have a limited ability to recognize depression in ourselves and others. The more we’re connecting with kindred spirits, the better our coping and friendships.
Recovery is a process of holistic healing. Too often, we ignore our physical health out of the false belief, “If I ignore it, it will go away.”
“Letting it go” is more than a cliche. Let’s get down to the actual steps of how to do it!
Settling is a great example of how people continue to utilize addictive thinking even in long term recovery. As the adage goes, “Everything you most want is on the other side of fear.”
I’ve learned over and over again that wanting it isn’t enough. Even needing it isn’t enough. It sounds a bit cold but I routinely ask people who are considering change, “What are you willing to do?”
We don’t “find” ourselves. We don’t wake up one day with a giant epiphany about who we are and what our purpose(s) are. What it’s really about is accepting the responsibility of developing an identity.
The fear of falling apart leaves us carrying a lot of baggage. A newfound freedom exists in learning how to let go.
Self-deception is part and parcel to addictive thinking. As we grow in our recovery, let’s move toward rigorous honesty with sef and avoid these pitfalls.