Expectations of self lead to resentment

Expectations of self lead to resentment

I’ve learned that the expectations and standards we hold ourselves to serve as guiding principles in our lives. Like many in recovery, I found myself repeatedly crumbling under the weight of the demands I placed on myself, the pressure I put on myself to juggle an impossible number of undertakings, and the absence of support that I allowed myself.

Taking compliments & why it matters

Taking compliments & why it matters

We are people who desperately want praise, recognition, affirmation and validation. Sadly, we are also uncomfortable receiving them and so we often reject (minimize, water down) kind words.

Stop Sabotaging Love!

Stop Sabotaging Love!

Childhood abuse and neglect, adolescent and young adult trauma, it all adds up in layers like sediment that can’t be permeated.

Relationships in Recovery

Relationships in Recovery

We tend to approach new relationships in recovery the way people who have just crawled across a desert approach water. Let’s look at common pitfalls and how to avoid them.