I know that when I say things out loud; it makes them more real, which makes it harder for me to ignore them or stuff them away. Maybe it seems strange that I talk to myself, but when I do it only in my head, I risk being less than honest. When I say it out loud, I notice the ways in which I might be justifying, rationalizing, or minimizing.
Somewhere between shame and fear is this place where unfamiliar steps seem impossible to take. It’s not that they’re difficult to understand. They’re uncomfortable, and so we go looking for softer, gentler ways to get what we need.
Top 10 list of pitfalls and false beliefs. Let’s consider healthy strategies BEFORE your next partnership
We tend to approach new relationships in recovery the way people who have just crawled across a desert approach water. Let’s look at common pitfalls and how to avoid them.